tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6300717197135075630.post3303753566191832967..comments2011-07-20T10:49:55.220-05:00Comments on Girls Seeking Gabber: The Sperm-Donor Kids Are Not Really All RightMeredithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14400365286382770809noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6300717197135075630.post-52616162088787127712010-07-06T06:32:16.733-05:002010-07-06T06:32:16.733-05:00I have to say: that report upset me much less afte...I have to say: that report upset me much less after I read the data, not just the conclusions. The data does not, in my view anyway, support the conclusions or much else in the report. Bear in mind that this way not put together by a neutral organization. These are people who provide speakers on why gay marriage is a danger, etc. <br /><br />The *data* is surprisingly not so bad at all. In nearly every case, the donor-conceived adults interviewed support exactly the positions you'd "want" them too -- that is, a good-sized majority (75%-ish) agree with statements like "everyone has a right to have a child" and so on (not feeling like looking at the report again, but you get the idea). Donor-conceived adults agree with the "donation" side of every point at rates much higher than the other groups -- adopted adults, adults conceived and raised by genetic parents -- suggesting that being donor-conceived has not left them bitter and broken but rather more open-minded about the ways they got here.<br /><br />How they got from their stated data to their conclusions I do not understand. Oh, unless they just figured no one would read the data and so they could just say whatever fit their ideology.... Great publicity, not so impressive science.<br /><br />I don't mean to suggest that there aren't real issues about donor-conception or that we should be afraid to talk about/deal with them, but I'm not willing to take this report as an indictment.Bionic Baby Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14308646591208692676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6300717197135075630.post-75446175783325855632010-06-17T14:42:40.997-05:002010-06-17T14:42:40.997-05:00So I notice that we have not seen any baby belly p...So I notice that we have not seen any baby belly pics since February. How about and update? Shall we beg Janet?cindyhoo2https://www.blogger.com/profile/00270674009271182588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6300717197135075630.post-343797515496823632010-06-15T15:20:47.441-05:002010-06-15T15:20:47.441-05:00Merideth: I had been thinking about it non stop s...Merideth: I had been thinking about it non stop since reading it. I'm glad that it helped you- just getting it in print calmed me down.<br /><br />N: I think id release is such a good thing. The donor we picked didn't offer it, but we've kept ever detail about him in a folder for Andrew on day. <br />What does DSR stand for?Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14400365286382770809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6300717197135075630.post-34754719261859526102010-06-15T10:44:53.087-05:002010-06-15T10:44:53.087-05:00A really excellent post, and it sums up so much of...A really excellent post, and it sums up so much of how I feel about it, too. It's a huge part of why we went for ID-Release, as well, when when we started out on this journey, I was adamantly AGAINST our children being able to find out who their donors were. (And, if things had been ideal, I would've rather continued to use our KD, but they weren't, and we chose to use ID-Release instead of a KD that we don't know, and couldn't gauge how they may or may not be down the line.) <br /><br />The report has really upset me, and the blog posts on the site of the group that funded it even more so. (They've been linked to and talked about a lot on the DSR e-mail group recently.) But all we can do is the best we can, and I really do believe that so much of the anger and upset is at being deceived, and being denied the information as to their past, as opposed to the simple fact that they're due to donation.Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17157239516168591352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6300717197135075630.post-6702339598990234542010-06-15T10:23:37.414-05:002010-06-15T10:23:37.414-05:00Thank you for putting that out there. I've fe...Thank you for putting that out there. I've felt such a pit in my stomach today about the study (funded by a very conservative group with a stated agenda of preserving "morals" and marriage). not everyone will read the fine print and, just like last week's positive study, people will take it at face value and add it to the compendium of knowledge they have about kids of gay individuals (conceived through donors or not). Your adoption perspective is really valuable and has eased my mind somewhat. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com